Multiple times over the last year I have held a momma’s hand while she mourned the loss of her child. Some were unborn, some very young. Others were adult children.
Over and over in these moments, I hear the reminder that our time here is short.
We don’t know how long God will give us with these babies.
One of the most amazing discoveries I have made as a parent is that these children are here to teach me something. I always thought it was the other way around.
Whether they are here a short period or outlive us, we can know that they are safe in His plan and in His care.
“I’ll lend to you for a little time,
A child of mine,” He said,
“For you to love the while she lives
And mourn for when she’s dead.
“It may be six or seven years
Or twenty-two or three,
But will you till I call her back,
Take care of her for me?
“She’ll bring her charms to gladden you
And should her stay be brief,
You’ll have these precious memories
As solace for your grief.
“I cannot promise she will stay
Since all from earth return.
But there are lessons taught down there
I want this child to learn.
“I’ve looked this world over,
In my search for teachers true.
In the crowds that throng life’s land,
I have selected you.
“Now will you give her all your love
Not think the labour vain,
Nor hate me when I come to call
To take her back again?”
It seems to me I heard them say,
“Dear Lord, thy will be done.
For all the joys a child shall bring,
The risk of grief we’ll run.
“We’ll shelter her with tenderness,
We’ll love her while we may,
And for the happiness we’ve known
Forever grateful stay.
“And should the angels call for him
Much sooner than we’ve planned,
We’ll brave the bitter grief that comes
And try to understand.”
Love those babies!
Hold them tight.
Because somewhere tonight a mom or dad sits with empty arms wishing they could hold their baby just one more time.
Parenthood is hard, but it’s worth it.
And if that child was gone, you’d gladly take the bad days just to have that child back in your arms.