faith, marriage

Respectfully Disagreeing: Interacting with Your Husband When You Don’t See Eye to Eye, Part 4

This is part 4 of our series on how we should interact with our husbands. See part 1, part 2, and part 3.

Here is a chart of biblical responsibilities for husbands and wives. It is worth mentioning that the husband actually has more God-given responsibilities/commands than the wife.  

This is particularly notable to me because of how often I hear pastors focus solely on the wife’s responsibilities.


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Tomorrow, I will present a flowchart chart about dealing with our believing or unbelievers husbands.  

Blessings,
Sarah Forbes


For more information about how to interact with backslidden and unbelieving husbands and specifically about divorce and separation, see this post.

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Respectfully Disagreeing: Interacting with Your Husband When You Don’t See Eye to Eye, Part 3

See part 1 and part 2 of our series.

This is the third part of our series about interacting with our husbands.

In the previous two posts, we discussed unbiblical views on submission and, also, how to address your husband if he is a believer.

Today, we are talking about dealing with abusive, unbelieving, or backslidden husbands.  

We are picking up where we left off yesterday, talking about bringing a husband who is in sin before the church.

I know more than one woman who was being physically abused and was sent back to her husband after seeking help at the church.

This infuriates me.

How dare we claim to be followers of God while sending women back to the person who may end up killing them!

That’s not what submission is about.

Submission, and all of marriage, is to be a reflection of Christ’s love toward us.

An abusive husband does nothing but taint Christianity and disgust those around us.

Even unbelievers know this is wrong. It is not a testimony to God’s love.

Continue reading “Respectfully Disagreeing: Interacting with Your Husband When You Don’t See Eye to Eye, Part 3”

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Respectfully Disagreeing: Interacting with Your Husband When You Don’t See Eye to Eye, Part 2

See part 1 of our series here

Yesterday, I said that how we interact with our husbands should be the same as how we interact with other Christians or unbelievers.  I also explained flaws in the extreme submission ideology, how it goes beyond what is actually scriptural.

So, what happens if my Christian husband is not fulfilling his biblical responsibilities toward me?

What if he’s not being loving?

Not showing difference?

Not being unconditionally loving? (Real, godly love is unconditional.)

Continue reading “Respectfully Disagreeing: Interacting with Your Husband When You Don’t See Eye to Eye, Part 2”

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Respectfully Disagreeing: Interacting with Your Husband When You Don’t See Eye to Eye, Part 1

Since today is my husband’s birthday, it seemed a fitting time to address how to interact with our husbands.

If you follow my blog, you know that I believe in submission –but I don’t believe as some people do that submission gives all the power to the man leaving the women hopeless and vulnerable (see this and this article which explains more about my position).

There are very few commands given to couples in scripture, and, while some pastors seem to like to preach in excess about the wife’s responsibilities, continually reminding women of their duty,  I think that the reason few verses are given about marriage is because the entire New Testament is a guideline for spousal interaction.

Let me explain what I mean.

When I first got married, I was told by other women that wives had a separate set of rules, that how they interacted with their husbands was completely different than how they were to interact with other Christians or unbelievers.

This never made sense to me.

Some authors, teachers, and local church members use submission as a method to basically make women into second class citizens.

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Your Character Is Showing: Maintaining a Testimony Online

Sometimes, when I am engaged in internet conversations, especially when another believer is attacking me for my beliefs, I feel like saying, “Your character is showing.”

In the last week, I have had multiple such experiences –this is interesting since I actually try to avoid online debates.

Some conversations have been godly and edifying.

Others… not so much.

How you handle a disagreement tells a lot about who you are as a person, as a Christian.

Do you attack the person who disagrees with you?

Do you take low blows, by insulting the other person rather than actually trying to help the person spiritually?

Are you more concerned about proving that you’re right than being loving and kind?

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