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To the Non-type-A Mom Who Wants to Homeschool

One question I get often is Can I homeschool if I am not a type A mom?

Absolutely!

Although, I have repeatedly been told that children need schedules, plans, and order, the truth is that some children do and some don’t.

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My mom was a great teacher. But, she would get restless. We would wake up one morning, and she would decide that today we were going to the beach. 

I loved beach days! 

It was wonderful and fun and spontaneous. We would load up reading books and a lunch, and 20 minutes later we would be on our way to the beach. I have such great memories.

My mom had a basic schedule. It was 1 hour blocks of time (but it rarely took us that long). I can still remember: Bible, Math, English, History, Science. It was very flexible. She allowed us to get as much done as we could as fast as we wanted. So, we weren’t forced to spend a whole hour on math, for instance.  

I have basically no schedule for school at all. We simply do the next thing -next page, next chapter, next problem. I let them pick their own class order but encourage them to begin with math.

It doesn’t look like public or private school and that’s entirely okay with me. In fact, that’s kind of the point.

Letting my children learn at their own pace as been freeing and has become an important part of our homeschool. 


Some things they learn fast. Other things they learn slow. It all evens out in the end.

I once had another homeschool mom tell me that I had no business homeschooling if I couldn’t keep a schedule that rotated every 15 minutes. It worked for her, and she was convinced it was the only right way to homeschool.

A rotating 15-minute schedule would make me want to claw my eyes out. It’s definitely not the way God made me.

There is no right way to homeschool. There is just whatever works for your family.

So, if you believe that God is leading you toward homeschooling, do it!

Even if you don’t think you have all the tools. Even if you think you are not organized enough.

You are what your children need.

God gave you these children and the desire to homeschool knowing full well that you were less-type-A than other mamas.

It doesn’t matter.

He still directed you to homeschooling.

The key to successful homeschooling, in my observation, is to let go of your expectations.

Your homeschool will likely not look like a public school (which is good) or private school (also good). 


That’s okay. 


We aren’t trying to copy a broken system.

It doesn’t matter how your children are learning as long as they are still learning. It doesn’t matter how long it takes to learn as long as they are learning.

One of the problems with the public and private schools is setting arbitrary requirements about what a child should be able to understand and when. 

Homeschooling allows you to customize the education to the child.

Those of us who are not type A are actually better at creative thinking and outside-the-box thinking.

This job is perfect for us!  

Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do this because you’re not type A. A generation of non-type-A moms who pioneered homeschooling are proof that we type-B moms can homeschool and turn out awesome, hardworking, intelligent kids in the end. My sweet mama is one of them.

And so am I.

Blessings,

Sarah Forbes

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8 thoughts on “To the Non-type-A Mom Who Wants to Homeschool”

  1. I have been put in situation where I have to homeschool due to public schools attendance policy. One you pass 20 days they fail you. My three younger children kindergarten, second and fifth are now due to several illnesses. We are new to the state, germs. I have been talked so negatively about me homeschooling I’ve literally been frozen. I have some resources I am just afraid I’m going to mess it up. What’s sad is an aunt who successfully homeschooled has refused to help me. She said Google some woman online. I don’t have a degree like my aunt. She was strict and organized. My personality is definitely the creative type. I’m organized in my own way that she would view as unorganized. This has stripped my confidence and I’ve not done much as I am so ov everwhelmed and keep hearing. You shouldn’t homeschool, you aren’t the type, it’s too much for you, you aren’t scheduled. My kids tell me I am the best mom in the world and they feel loved and do learn from me. I just wish I could jump in with confidence. All the negative comments repeatedly made over me feel like a self fulfilling curse. How do I move fwd when I am already so far behind.By the way I am a married SAHM with 7 children. Ages 6, 8, 11, 14, 17, 19 and 21. All at home which I love as it won’t be forever I will have them all together. I don’t want mess this up. I just wish one person would believe in me.

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    1. I believe in you, Lisa! ❤❤❤ The best homeschools don’t look anything like public school. Public school is a broken system that’s not working for many kids –especially special needs kids. It’s okay if your homeschool doesn’t look like or function like public school. I actually feel sorry for the moms who feel like they have to replicate public school at home. It doesn’t work, and it makes everyone miserable. ☹ You are the best person to educate your children! You understand them and love them more than any other person on the earth! You are invested in their success way more than a public school teacher who’s trying to care for 20 or 30 or even 40 kids. I don’t think you need the help from the educated teacher because homeschool moms who are former teachers say they have to unlearn everything they learned when teaching to make homeschooling work. Homeschooling is soooo different from public school. Besides you have been educating them since the day they were born. You can do this! Do you have ADHD (or similar symptoms?) If so, we have an awesome supportive group on Facebook called “Homeschool Moms with ADD/ADHD which I think would be very helpful and encouraging. Look into more relaxed types of homeschooling like delight-led, Charlotte mason, and unschooling. These work way better for type B moms. Don’t listen to the naysayers. Fibd people who get you and support you even if it’s just online friends. Feel free to comment here and I’ll answer and help as much as I can or send me a message on my Facebook page (like is in the sidebar). I’m praying for you! 🌻

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