One question I get often is “Can I homeschool if I am not a type A mom?“
Although, I have repeatedly been told that children need schedules, plans, and order, the truth is that some children do and some don’t.
My mom was a great teacher. But, she would get restless. We would wake up one morning, and she would decide that today we were going to the beach.
I loved beach days!
It was wonderful and fun and spontaneous. We would load up reading books and a lunch, and 20 minutes later we would be on our way to the beach. I have such great memories.
My mom had a basic schedule. It was 1 hour blocks of time (but it rarely took us that long). I can still remember: Bible, Math, English, History, Science. It was very flexible. She allowed us to get as much done as we could as fast as we wanted. So, we weren’t forced to spend a whole hour on math, for instance.
I have basically no schedule for school at all. We simply do the next thing -next page, next chapter, next problem. I let them pick their own class order but encourage them to begin with math.
It doesn’t look like public or private school and that’s entirely okay with me. In fact, that’s kind of the point.
Letting my children learn at their own pace as been freeing and has become an important part of our homeschool.
Some things they learn fast. Other things they learn slow. It all evens out in the end.
I once had another homeschool mom tell me that I had no business homeschooling if I couldn’t keep a schedule that rotated every 15 minutes. It worked for her, and she was convinced it was the only right way to homeschool.
A rotating 15-minute schedule would make me want to claw my eyes out. It’s definitely not the way God made me.
There is no right way to homeschool. There is just whatever works for your family.
So, if you believe that God is leading you toward homeschooling, do it!
Even if you don’t think you have all the tools. Even if you think you are not organized enough.
You are what your children need.
God gave you these children and the desire to homeschool knowing full well that you were less-type-A than other mamas.
It doesn’t matter.
He still directed you to homeschooling.
The key to successful homeschooling, in my observation, is to let go of your expectations.
Your homeschool will likely not look like a public school (which is good) or private school (also good).
We aren’t trying to copy a broken system.
It doesn’t matter how your children are learning as long as they are still learning. It doesn’t matter how long it takes to learn as long as they are learning.
One of the problems with the public and private schools is setting arbitrary requirements about what a child should be able to understand and when.
Homeschooling allows you to customize the education to the child.
Those of us who are not type A are actually better at creative thinking and outside-the-box thinking.
This job is perfect for us!
Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do this because you’re not type A. A generation of non-type-A moms who pioneered homeschooling are proof that we type-B moms can homeschool and turn out awesome, hardworking, intelligent kids in the end. My sweet mama is one of them.
And so am I.