Ever looming above the women is the accusation of lazy.
No matter how hard we work –especially those of us who are mothers– we get the accusation thrown at us unless we can manage to keep our homes looking like the cover of Better Homes and Gardens.
But let’s be honest: few of us can.
Sometimes it is overt accusations, and sometimes it is just whispered reminders.
Let’s delve more into the accusation of lazy and address this issue head-on.
First of all, let’s define lazy.
Websters 1828 defines it thus:
LA’ZY, adjective [Latin laxus, and it is doubtful whether this is of the same family.]
1. Disinclined to action or exertion; naturally or habitually slothful; sluggish; indolent; averse to labor; heavy in motion.
It is important to note that scripture has some specific things to say about laziness. Most often scripture refers to being a sluggard when it speaks of being lazy. Let’s look at that definition, too.
- slow-moving or inactive.
Do you really know even one mom who is inactive?
Literally and truly inactive?
Lazy has to do with being idle, but it is more than that. It is being intentionally idle.
Resting when you are exhausted is not idle.
Staying down when you are sick is not idle.
Sleeping when you are tired is not idle.
Taking a break when you are overwhelmed is not idle.
Being idle is foolishness, and foolishness is a choice. Many of the above choices are in fact wise, not foolish.
But how do we determine if someone if making that choice or if it is involuntary like an undiagnosed illness or excessive fatigue or sleep deprivation?
We don’t. It is not our place.
Laziness and idleness has to do, not with what you are doing, but rather with the motivation for what you are doing.
How do you truly know what is someone’s motivation?
In fact, scripture says we shouldn’t try to guess.
Only God can judge a person’s motives. Scripture repeatedly says this.
For the LORD sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7
All a person’s ways seem pure to them, but motives are weighed by the LORD. Proverbs 16:2
Therefore do not pronounce judgment before the time, before the Lord comes, who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart. 1 Corinthians 4:5
Each person should be aware that idleness or laziness is a temptation and praying that they will not fall into idleness.
But no one can look at someone else and know what is in their heart.
It is not our place to say that we know the heart-motives of another person.
I am the last person to say that we should never judge. In fact, I wrote another post explaining, based on scripture, when we should and when we shouldn’t judge.
Supposing and guessing that we know what is inside someone’s heart based on their activity level is wrong, unbiblical.
So if you’re a believer, you shouldn’t be accusing other people of being lazy. It is not your place.
When in doubt, pray for them and encourage.