Love looks for and expects the best in others.
Love assumes they are doing their best.
You have two options when dealing with people:
Assume they are doing their worst which is demoralizing and discouraging.
Or assume they are doing their best and believe in them.
If you assume they are doing their best and they do not, they will at least know you love and support them.
If you always assume the worst, they will feel like you will never approve even if they do well.
One helps; the other does nothing but harm.
What does scripture say about this topic?
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
1 Corinthians 13:7
Believes All Things:
“The whole scope of the connection and the argument here requires us to understand this of the conduct of others. It cannot mean, that the man who is under the influence of love is a man of ‘universal credulity;’ that he makes no discrimination in regard to things to be believed; and is as prone to believe a falsehood as the truth; or that he is at no pains to inquire what is true and what is false, what is right and what is wrong. But it must mean, that in regard to the conduct of others, there is a disposition to put the best construction on it; to believe that they may be actuated by good motives, and that they intend no injury; and that there is a willingness to suppose, as far as can be, that what is done is done consistently with friendship, good feeling, and virtue. Love produces this, because it rejoices in the happiness and virtue of others, and will not believe the contrary except on irrefragable evidence.”
Godly love is so hopeful that it will not believe that someone has done wrong unless presented with factual evidence.
It believes the best in people.
Godly love is so hopeful that it chooses to believe that others are doing their best.
One of the greatest changes in me occurred when I started to believe the best in others –when I stopped doubting that they were doing their best.
This is part of unconditional love.
It is key to our relationships.
The world doubts and judges. It should not be that way with us. We should love unconditionally and risk that we are wrong –risk for the sake of Christ and for the sake of doing what is right and hard.
Might we be hurt or disappointed?
Yes, but that is what Jesus calls us to do: love selflessly. We also see in that same verse that godly love is willing to bear all things meaning that love is willing to risk being hurt.
We can trust the outcome to Him.