The last week or so has been challenging for me.
I am having flare-ups from my car accident.
Although the car accident was over six months ago, I seem to be healing more slowly than average due to the complexities of my health issues.
I am particularly struggling to remain peaceful with the amount of pain I am dealing with –often so much that I cannot even walk.
Earlier this week someone asked me how I do it all –how do I run a house, stay organized, do everything that I am supposed to do?
There is a simple answer: I don’t.
I simply don’t do it all.
I cannot do it all.
And, I don’t believe that God expects me to.
Every day, I am expected to get done what I can do.
If I cannot do it, I was not expected to do it that day.
God doesn’t expect from us what we cannot give.
He knows that we are frail humans, and He knows what we are capable of.
I have a rule that if I can’t do it without yelling, being unkind or not being peaceful, I’m not doing it.
My testimony in front of my children is more important than the task.
I am struggling to maintain that testimony, but I am striving to do so in spite of daily pain and immobility.
I don’t have some magic solution to life that makes me able to handle all of life’s challenges beautifully.
I am not super organized and a super mom.
What I have done is I have trusted God with the things that I cannot control.
I have trusted Him with the things I cannot do.
If I cannot do it today –either because my health or circumstances prohibit me– then God did not intend me to do it today.
If I understand this, it alleviates the frustration and guilt associated with trying to do it all and failing.
If what I do today is completely surrendered to the Lord, if I am okay with whatever He brings my way, then I will not be angry when I am unable to do the things that I thought that I was supposed to do.
I only feel out of control when I fail to remember that He is in control.
So, how do I do it all?
I don’t even try to do it all.
I try to do what is truly important –things that have eternal value.
I try to be a servant to my family –as much as I can be in a state of ongoing health problems.
And I surrender the rest to the Lord.
Most of the problems I have –most of the time that I have had anger– is when my ideas of how my day should go come face to face with how the Lord is allowing my day to go.
When things don’t go my way, it often results in anger if I cannot remember that He is in control of all, knowing all, directing all.
Far more important than if my house was cleaned today….
Or if dinner was made on time…
Or if all the dishes were done…
Or if my homeschool plan was fulfilled…
… is my testimony before my children.
How I respond when things do not go my way matters.
How I handle the imperfect situations shows my children how they should respond when things inevitably do not go their way.
It is our testimony to our children about whether or not we really believe that God is in control.
We say that we believe God is in control.
But do we show that in how we act?
The things that need to be done are never more important than the attitude we have while doing them.
We tend to think that our character is reflected in what we accomplish –if we get enough done– when in reality our character is reflected in how we do what we do.
The amount accomplished has little to do with it.
Do only what you can do with an attitude that honors the Lord!
We should be far more concerned with how we do things than how many things we accomplish.
We can trust what happens to the Lord who is in control of all.
And, we can never go wrong by focusing on our character –which is eternal– over our to-do list –which is temporal.
Below you can download some free printable to remind you to focus on your testimony to your children and family.