Peace Day Challenge, Part 6 | Peace Day Challenge Reflections

If you’ve been following along with my Biblical Peace Day posts (#biblicalpeacedaychallenge on Facebook), you might notice that I got off my originally planned schedule.

Ironically, this whole series has been about how to handle situations when things don’t go as planned –because, let’s be honest when do things actually go as planned, like, ever?

So, I had the opportunity to test my ideas first hand this week and see if they really work –I am relieved to be able to say that my approach worked.

Earlier this week we talked about seeking peace and choosing to do activities that you could do while maintaining your peace.

After all, we are called to be peaceful.

Then, how do we deal with the things that stress us out?

If we are choosing to be peaceful what do we do when faced with things that do not bring us peace?

The following is a list of things that have helped me, as well as PDF print outs to help you brainstorm solutions for your particular situation, to help you find peaceful approaches to your stressful issues.

1. Pray

I have been able to pray myself through stressful situations.

It doesn’t fix every problem, and sometimes –like in the case of a panic attack or health crisis– I need medical attention and not solely prayer.

But, we are commanded to pray without ceasing, and we know that we are supposed to make our requests known to God.

Whether God chooses to answer us with a “Yes,” “No,” or “Wait,” prayer can help.

But, it is more than just telling God what we want or need.

Prayer can have a meditative and calming affect on us.

Even if it doesn’t change our situation, it can have a calming effect on us.

It helps us to know that God is listening and working behind the scenes even if we cannot see what He is doing.

Stress makes you believe that everything has to happen right now. Faith reassures you that everything will happen in God’s timing.

Reminding myself that God is ultimately in control can have a soothing effect on my nerves.

I have even been known to chant, “God is in control” over and over under my breath to calm myself.

Don’t forget to give thanks for everything –even the things you don’t feel thankful for.

The unthankful heart discovers no mercies but the thankful heart will find in every hour, some heavenly blessings. —Henry Ward Beecher

2. Quote scripture

I have been known to quote scripture over and over to help destress.

The Lord is with me; I will not be afraid. What can man do it me?

The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.”

Neither height nor depth nor any other thing shall be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus.”

Or “He has given us everything we need for life and godliness.”

I will use scripture I’ve memorized as a mantra, a chant to soothe my anxiety and stress.

My children jokingly tell me to go to my happy place.

I have a funny story about that which I will share another time.

Other verses that might help you:

God is faithful.

God is good.

God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.

Meditating on Scripture can help keep us calm during difficult times.

3. Listen to calming music

I like praise music.

It helps me focus on the Lord and helps me get through hard stuff.

Praise music can have a huge calming effect on me, but I cannot guarantee it will have that effect on everyone.

Others may find that classical music or some other kind soothes and calms them better.

I have a playlist on YouTube just for this purpose.

There are many many songs that were written about God’s faithfulness and trusting God during the hard times.

I cling to those songs and sing them to myself when I need to be reminded that the Lord is still there and still in control.

The Bible never once says “Figure it out.” But over and over it says “Trust God.” He’s already got it all figured out.

4. Get medical treatment

Adhd, anxiety, thyroid, adrenal problems –and more– can cause a difficulty in keeping calm and peaceful.

People who are emotionally, psychologically, and physically healthy don’t react badly to stress.

I mean it: our bodies were created to handle normal amounts of stress like making dinner, cleaning houses, and teaching our children.

Abnormal amounts of stress can cause trauma.

If basic things that probably shouldn’t be stressing you are stressing you, you need to get some help.

Many times, our natural instincts take over, but they are misfiring like I described in my previous post.

Don’t give up looking for help until you get it.

Be your own advocate, and push if you have to –I had to keep pushing until I got answers.

If you’re not well, you’re not going to be equipped to take care of your family.

If you’re not well, it’s not your fault.

Cut yourself slack.

You can only function as well as your body and mind are able to.

Seriously, get help.

You owe it to your family to take care of yourself so that you can take care of them.

I know first hand that you can’t take care of others if you can’t even take care of yourself.

5. Accept what you cannot control

Accept it if it’s not perfect.

Be more concerned about your testimony –the condition of your heart– than your house –the external and visual conditions of your body, house, car, family, etc.

Men judge the outside, but the Lord judges the heart.

Me getting to the point that it was okay if things weren’t perfect was huge!

God cares what your children’s hearts look like, not what your homeschool room looks like –Karen Debeus

God also cares about what your heart looks like, not what your house looks like. I have a whole post about this topic.

If you are here, God put you here for a reason.

Accept that He has a reason for what is happening.

It is in your broken places you are most often used by God. –Christine Cain

6. Observe your own behavior

Learn the clues as to when you’re reaching your limit.

Back off before you get to the point of yelling or being overwhelmed.

I have a whole post here about learning to identify your anger triggers and curbing it.

Whether you have a slow build to crazy mom or you go from sane to crazy mom in .02 seconds, know yourself.

We can’t always stop ourselves before we lose it, but we can learn from it —and apologize to those around us for our bad behavior.

When you do lose it, make note of what your trigger was.

Remember that the goal is to stay a peace and calm –no matter what happens.

“Never assume that loud is strong and quiet is weak.”

Yesterday, my trigger was arguing children.

You can see my post about this yesterday.

I am sure I am the only one who dislikes arguing children, right?

If you’re not aware of what you’re doing and how you’re responding ask your spouse or oldest child to tell you when you start getting snappy.

And then, actually listen and don’t snap when they tell you.

I have been guilty of biting my oldest’s head off when he tells me I’m overreacting.

He’s very faithful to tell me when I am not acting politely.

7. Be pre-emptive.

Figure out what is causing you stress, and then brain storm solutions so you can address the problem next time before you reach critical mass.

For example, if the dishes bother you and cause you stress like making you grumpy or yell, consider creative solutions such as:

  • using paper plates,
  • buying disposable baking pans,
  • hiring the teen down the road to come catch you up on dishes once a week,
  • asking your mom or friend for some help,
  • buying a dishwasher or a better quality dishwasher if you have one already,
  • teaching a child to do it with you if you can,
  • focusing on making one pot meals so you have less to wash,
  • making larger meals and have left overs so you are cooking and using dishes less often.

I have tried all of these and more to help me deal with the stress of doing the dishes.

For me, it is more than just stress since doing the dishes causes pain.

Some of these might cost more money or be less than the perfect solution, but is trying to appear perfect better than doing what works?

Better than not snapping and yelling at your children?

Remember the true show of your faith is in your character, in how you treat your children and husband.

Displaying good character and maintaining your testimony matters far more than how your house looks or if you are doing things the “right” way.

Since the Bible doesn’t tell us how to run our houses, there is no right way.

Our characters matter.

If I cannot give my children a perfect mother, I can at least give them more of the one they’ve got –and make that one more loving. I will be available. I will take time to listen, time to play, time to be home…, time to counsel and encourage. –Ruth Bell Graham

What did you know stressed you out before you even started your peace day?

What did you not realize stressed you out until you tried it and realized you weren’t doing it peacefully?

Now, how can you address those issues that stress you out?

Can you ask for help?


Hire someone?

Trade with a friend –like “Hey, I’ll watch your kids for a date night if you help me file these papers I hate filing,” for example?

You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. –C.S. Lewis

If you need help with brainstorming ideas, comment here or on the Facebook page, and I will try to help you come up with more ideas.

8. Lower your expectations

Let’s say, for example, that you’re always exhausted by the time dinner time comes and often end up yelling.

What’s worse: that your child watches 30 or 40 minutes of Clifford the Big Red Dog while you make dinner in peace or that you do it the way you think is ideal and risk your testimony by yelling and losing your temper?

If dinner stresses you but you don’t want to use the TV, why not choose very simple dinners?

Think outside the box and make choices by putting an emphasis on your character –can you stay peaceful?

Can you maintain your testimony?

Can you do it without yelling, grousing, or otherwise being unkind?

If your house isn’t perfectly clean because you’re focused on little souls,you’re doing it right. –Sarah Forbes

9. Apologize

When you lose your temper — and you will eventually— apologize to your children and spouse.

Model good behavior which means if you can’t do it right, apologize for the failure.

Humble yourself and admit you’re not perfect.

They don’t need a perfect mom.

They need a surrendered mom.

They need an honest mom.

Maintaining your peace and your testimony in front of your family is far more important than anything you need to get done.

These children are your mission field.

“Children learn more from what you are than what you teach.”

Find ways, to do what needs to be done without ruining your testimony.

I thought parenting was going to portray my strengths, never realising that God had ordained it to reveal my weaknesses. –Dave Harvey

10. Learn to let go

Learning to let go of things you cannot control is not easy, and I’ll not insult your intelligence by suggesting that it is.

However, nothing kills our peace faster than fighting for an ideal we cannot attain.

The Lord uses disruptions to keep us dependent on Him.

I have a whole post about things you can and cannot control.

11. Find a support system

Remember that you’re surrounded by a cloud of unseen witnesses cheering you on to victory in Christ.

Expose yourself to people who have faced trials and been faithful.

Consider reading Foxe’s Book of Martyrs, for example.

Here’s a quote from fiction but that I find very faith-challenging:

“If the Lord will, He can save us even from this fearful peril; if not, let us calmly yield our lives into His hand, and think of the joy and blessedness of finding ourselves for ever and ever united in that happy home above. Even death is not too bitter, when it does not separate those who love one another.” –Johann David Wyss in The Swiss Family Robinson (This is what the father in the story told his children when they were abandoned by the crew sailing their ship and when they faced almost-certain death in the storm-raging seas.)

Church, family, friends, Facebook groups, and more can all form the basis of support that you can go to for help.

A counselor can help you with frustration.

Call a friend, and rant and rave –I do this, and it helps.

Some people process better when they talk it out.

If talking it out makes you more upset then don’t do this.

If it helps you calm down, do it.

Don’t ignore the importance of prayer as mentioned above.

Here are two files I made to help us list out our triggers and possible solutions to those triggers. One is list-style, and the other is a mind-map.

PDF Peace Day Reflections Brainstorming Stressors And Possible Solutions (Mindmapping)

PDF Peace Day Reflections Brainstorming Stressors And Possible Solutions (List Style)

Never feel guilty for wanting peace.

We all need times of peace for our sanity.

You’re actually doing better for your family by seeking peace.

Even though it is contrary to the way we are told we should be.

Peace comes from contentment and resting in God.

Contentedness is a spiritual issue, not a practical one. Contentedness will not come from being more organized, being a better wife, keeping a nicer home, living in a different place, taking more time for yourself, or whatever it is you think might help. Contentedness is learned by accepting life each day as God gives it to you, and adjusting your expectations to life’s limitations. — Sally Clarkson

How much better could your home life be if you could keep yourself peaceful?

If you could parent from a place of peace?

It is my prayer that peace would rule your heart.


Sarah Forbes

Here are the posts in this series. I will add the links as I publish the posts.

Peace Day Challenge, Part 1: We are Called to Peace

Peace Day Challenge, Part 2: Even If the Healing Never Comes: Choosing Contentment

Peace Day Challenge, Part 3: Scriptures Verses About Living in Peace

Peace Day Challenge, Part 4: The Actual Peace Day Challenge

Peace Day Challenge, Part 5: Yes, I Still Lose My Cool Sometimes

Peace Day Challenge, Part 6: Peace Day Challenge Reflections


Peace Day Challenge, Part 5 | Yes, I Still Lose My Cool Sometimes

The Lord definitely has a sense of humor.

Here I am writing each day this week about how I have gotten this peace thing figured out, and He –knowing that I need to stay humble– allows my day to take a twist.

If you have been following along this week, you know that this– part 5 –was supposed to be posted yesterday.

But, in true peace-seeking fashion, I had to put it off until today because I was unable to maintain my peace while dealing with everything else and trying to write this post.

On the one hand it is ironic and on the other hand fitting: it’s ironic that I would write about something I still struggle with, but fitting that I should write about it because I am so intimately familiar with the struggle.

I obviously haven’t mastered this, but my system seems to be working for me.

Yesterday was a long day and during the day I addressed some stressful-to-me things which I had put off but which needed to be deal with (for example, getting an estimate to replace a broken window in the house).

By dinner time, I was exhausted –remember all my health issues?

But I had the post that needed to be written.

I kept writing down ideas, but not actually writing the post because I was having a hard time finding the focus and energy.

Then, my children started arguing.

Arguing children is a trigger for me.

They make me just batty.

And, just like that, the peace that I had been holding by a thread all day long was gone.

Rather than do any of the things I know to do, I started getting angry and upset.

My whole family noticed and started looking at each other and me very concerned.

I really try hard not to lose my cool and to remain peaceful.

My husband lovingly –as politely as he could– told me that he thought I was overreacting.

I was, but I couldn’t see it.

I seemed to be making sense to me even though I wasn’t making sense to everyone else.

It became apparent that I was not handling the situation as well as I had at first thought, so I sent my children to bed (it was after 9 pm already).

I vented to my husband about everything that I felt had gone wrong, and –to his credit–, he just let me vent and didn’t tell me that I was irrational or too emotional.

He knows that doesn’t help –that escalates the situation because I need to be heard and feel validated in feeling what I feel even if what I feel isn’t accurate.

Feelings are real even if they lie to you; they may not be telling you the truth, but they are what you feel.

They get a voice, but they do not get to make the decisions.

I knew once I had lost it that I was not going to be able to get back to a place of peace because I was simply too tired.

So, I put myself to bed.

By then, I was so unexplainably angry that I had a very hard time sleeping.

But, I care about my testimony to my family, so I make myself go to bed and stay away if I can’t behave properly.

My testimony is more important than my to-do list.

This morning, after a conversation with my doctor, I realized that I was detoxing and it was making me angry.

Anger is not an uncommon reaction to detox, and if you’ve done a detox before, you know what I am talking about.

I am feeling much better this morning after talking to my doctor and adjusting my treatment plan accordingly.

When my children got up this morning, I apologized.

Here’s how it works in my mind: I am apprenticing my children.

They are learning how to behave in life based on how I behave.

Ideally, I would model good behavior, but –if I cannot– then I had better ask for forgiveness.

I try to be as good a model as I can, but if I cannot, I had better be humble enough to admit when I am wrong –or else I have no right to demand that they admit when they are wrong.

I cannot expect them to do what I will not do.

Apologies were given and accepted.

And, I am a little bit humbler as I address this issue today.

See, physically and mentally healthy bodies –and emotionally and spiritually healthy hearts– are made to process stress without having bad reactions like anger, frustration, freaking out and losing control.

If any of those things are out of balance: if your body or mind is not healthy, if your emotions or your soul are not in a healthy place, then that will impede on your ability to keep yourself calm in the chaos.

We tend to think that it is all spiritual, but it isn’t just spiritual.

We think that because one of the fruits of the Spirit is self-control then we should always be self-controlled.

So, if you don’t have self-control, you must not be being controlled by the spirit, right?

I mean, I see the logic there, and I sort of agree, except that we have instincts and impulses that take over sometimes.

One of the times in my life when I have felt the most out of control was labor.

But, was I really out of control?

No, my body had taken over and was controlling a natural process.

The same is true for other situations.

For instance, when dealing with anxiety (not a rational fear, but irrational), your body has misidentified something as dangerous which is not dangerous.

It is using a basic fight-or-flight response because your body thinks it is protecting you.

Are you out of control?

Sort of.

But it is more accurately described as your body not doing what it is supposed to do –because your body should know what is actually dangerous and what isn’t, not try to flee something that is benign like a nonpoisonous spider.

A natural instinct is taking over but that instinct isn’t helping –kind of like if you went into labor when you weren’t actually pregnant.

I struggle with self-control when I have to fight against the disease ridden body that I live in to keep my peace.

It is hard, but it is not entirely impossible.

This is why you have to address your issues!

It’s getting better the more I practice and the more I try to be aware of my own actions and my motivations.

Yesterday, my son asked what I was writing about for my blog post, and when I told him about being peaceful he gave me a smirk and chuckled.

I think he thought it was ironic that I was writing on that topic this week!

It is something I am striving for, but not something that I have conquered.

In fact, I will be using the mindmap I made for this week to seek out solutions to my own anger issues last night (more on the mindmap tomorrow).

Even though I was being angry because of the detox, there was still a trigger.

In this case, the trigger of my anger was my children arguing.

I really dislike it when they bicker especially if it is about something that is not important –the pettier the topic the more irritated I am likely to get.

Because I know this is my trigger, now I can find better solutions so that when this issue comes up again –and it will– I can choose to handle it a different way than losing my cool.

Some ideas of things I could do are: defer to my husband if he is home, call my mother and ask her to negotiate between the children, pray first (this couldn’t hurt, huh?), separate them until I can calm down, etc.

I’m going to leave this here and pick it up tomorrow.

I have a lot more to say about this topic, but it is date night tonight and I need to get ready to go.


Sarah Forbes

Here are the posts in this series. I will add the links as I publish the posts.

Peace Day Challenge, Part 1: We are Called to Peace

Peace Day Challenge, Part 2: Even If the Healing Never Comes: Choosing Contentment

Peace Day Challenge, Part 3: Scriptures Verses About Living in Peace

Peace Day Challenge, Part 4: The Actual Peace Day Challenge

Peace Day Challenge, Part 5: Yes, I Still Lose My Cool Sometimes

Peace Day Challenge, Part 6: Peace Day Challenge Reflections

If you enjoyed this post, you may also enjoy these:

Choosing Joy: How an Attitude of Thankfulness Changed My Life

Lessons from Jonah

When You Find You Can’t Do It All

Independentism: The Negative Effects of Self-sufficiency on Women in the Church


Peace Day Challenge, Part 4 | The (Actual) Peace Day Challenge

The Peace Day Challenge

For the last few days on the blog we have been talking about seeking peace and living in peace, and I have been hinting about my Peace Day Challenge.

See the bottom of this post for links to previous posts on this topic.

So, what is the Peace Day Challenge?

I challenge you to spend one day practicing peace.

In your heart.

In your home.

In your relationships.

Biblical peace.

We are called to peace, to be peaceful.

This was discussed in a previous post called Peace Day Challenge, Part 1: We are Called to Peace.

So, why am I doing a peace challenge?

Because I think that most of us don’t even know what it is like to exist peacefully.

All we know is pushing, and striving, and drama, and stress, and racing to the next appointment or activity.

A Peace Day allows us to stop fighting, stop struggling, stop trying to fix everything in our lives, every last problem and allows us to just be.

It teaches us to be peaceful in the chaos.

In spite of the chaos.

God can use that chaos for our good, as I have mentioned in my previous post called Peace Day Challenge, Part 2: Even If the Healing Never Comes: Choosing Contentment which is my testimony about how far God has brought me in being content and seeking peace in Him regardless of my circumstances.

God can use that chaos for good, so why are we constantly freaking out about it and fighting it?

If you feel like a hamster on a wheel, constantly running and pushing and trying and never getting anywhere and just getting angrier and more frustrated, this post is for you, and I challenge you to try a Peace Day —a day of peace.

The whole world won’t fall apart if for one day you stop the rat race.

I promise.

I am giving you permission to take one day off to seek peace.

To practice peace.

We take one day a year in the USA to practice being thankful –or at least that’s what I think it’s for even though some people think it’s about football.

Couldn’t we take one day a year and practice being peaceful?

One day to stop the rat race and just learn to exist in a peaceful way.

Most people have never learned this.

And, I never would have if my health didn’t force me to stop.

You’re seeking to have peace in yourself: an even voice and calm presence –focused on God’s goodness.

You’re seeking peace in your relationships: no getting upset, yelling, being frustrated, etc.

Now, this will need to be a day when you are staying home.

I’m assuming that you’re a homeschooling, stay-at-home mom because that’s a large part of my audience.

If not, this might be harder to implement, but not impossible –it will just require a little more creativity and forethought on your part.

Pick a day when you don’t have to go anywhere, and I am giving you permission, for just today, to only do what brings you peace and what you can do peacefully.

This day –Peace Day– you don’t have to do anything that makes you stressed out.

Believe me when I say that those stressful things will still be there tomorrow.

Do whatever you need to for you to be peaceful.

Just for today, imagine that you are sick and don’t have to do anything.

Your 2-year-old will not be permanently damaged if you distract her instead of punishing her and addressing an issue just for today.

No one is likely to die if you have peanut butter and jelling sandwiches or cereal for dinner.

A long time ago, I decided that if I couldn’t do something without yellingwithout being peacefulI wasn’t going to do it.

My testimony before my children is way more important than any task that needs to be done today.

Your testimony before your children is so much more important than any task you need to accomplish today.

Important Steps for Your Peace Day:

1. Acknowledge that God is in control of everything: the good, the bad, and even the ugly.

Nothing happens apart from His will –either ordained or permitted will.

So, you can rest in Him.

Knowing He is in control and choosing to trust Him brings peace.

2. Surrender your day to God.

What happens today happens because God allows it to happen.

He promises to give you everything you need for life and godliness.

So, if you don’t have the energy, or the focus, or the time, then you are not expected to get it done today.

God never expects us to do things we are incapable of doing.

Either He will give us the power to do it, or He doesn’t expect it to be done.

No matter what happens, the goal is to still be singing God’s praises when you put your head on your pillow tonight.

The sun comes up

It’s a new day dawning

It’s time to sing Your song again

Whatever may pass

And whatever lies before me

Let me be singing

When the evening comes

-Matt Redman

I have to admit that the idea of still being willing to praise God at night after a hard day parenting did not come from me.

It came from my friend Ellie who made an offhanded comment that this was her goal.

I went home and cried because I knew that I was not ending my day willing to praise God for whatever had happened no matter what happened.

And, I was determined to change that.

She probably doesn’t even remember the conversation.

But I will never ever forget it.

Today, you want to practice quietness, peace.

Don’t let any situation take away the strength you have when you’re peaceful.

Do you know the Biblical definition of meek?

“Quiet strength.”

Also, “An attitude of humble, submissive and expectant trust in God, and a loving, patient and gentle attitude towards others.”

I like the first definition best.

You know the opposite of quiet strength?

Freaking out and yelling.

I’ve had my fair share of freaking out and yelling days.

You can read about one such incident in this post: The Great Cookie Incident of 2013.

3. Focus on the positive things in your life.

It is very hard to stay peaceful if you are thinking about all the things that you think are going wrong in your life.

As cliched as it sounds, counting your blessings really does have a positive effect on our hearts and attitudes.

Even in the hardest of circumstances, you can be grateful that God has promised to work everything out for your good eventually, that He will finish what He started, and that He is working behind the scenes in ways you cannot see and cannot understand at this minute.

4. Realize that any trial or struggle in your life that is not within your control to change is within God’s control.

Make a conscious decision to not resent this because this is what God is doing in your life to deepen your faith.

Surrender these situations to the Lord and say “Thy will be done,” just like Jesus did.

God calls us to endure hard things sometimes, but no more than His son endured for us.

If there are situations you can change, pray that the Lord would give you wisdom and patience to address them prudently.

If not, pray that you would have the ability to surrender the situation to God.

I have a whole post about this topic entitles Things in Outside and Inside My Control.

5. Focus on relationships over efficiency and productivity.

Remember how much you love your children.

Swing them around the kitchen if they are little enough.

Dance around the living room with them.

Smile at each of them.

Hug them each at least once today.

Tell them you love them and tell them why.

Choose to find joy in them today.

When your husband comes home from work, give him a kiss and tell him you are thankful for him.

You are practicing things that lend themselves to a peaceful home.

6. Only do what you can do and still remain peaceful.

Here’s where I might lose some people, so bear with me.

If an argument starts, find the most peaceful and defusing resolution.

If something stresses you out, put it off until tomorrow or find a non-stressful alternative –such as listening to praise music to calm yourself.

Everyone’s different and what stresses them is different.

For instance, before my adrenal issues, I could sing a solo in front of 400 people and hardly get nervous, but I would freak out trying to do the math for our budget.

If watching TV or reading a book is all you can do today without freaking out, that is okay.

I am giving you permission –-for today— to only do things that don’t stress you out, that don’t make you upset and lose your peace.

We will talk tomorrow about what to do about those things that do stress you out.

Your testimony is so much more important than what you think you need to get done today.

(Shhhhh…. I will tell you a secret: I think you should be doing most of these things every day, not just on Peace Day. But, more on that tomorrow.)

So, how peaceful are you, really?

Let’s find out!

I was a lot less peaceful than I thought.

I challenge you to take one day off to practice being peaceful.

If you accept this challenge, post a picture or post on my Facebook Page or use the hashtag #biblicalpeacedaychallenge on your wall, and I will be able to see your photos (if they are set to public).

I would love to hear how this challenge helped you!

This message will self-destruct —just kidding.

Christians in former times understood the value of peaceful existence –a value which we have lost sight of in our fast-paced society and a value I am actively trying to regain.

Blessed are the single-hearted, for they shall enjoy much peace… If you refuse to be hurried and pressed, if you stay your soul on God, nothing can keep you from that clearness of spirit which is life and peace. – Amy Carmichael

I am praying that you will find peace amid the chaos.

Remember: Jesus was still the King of the Universe even in the storm when the disciples thought everything was out of control and that the storm had won.

He still hasn’t surrendered His throne.

So, you don’t need to surrender your peace.

Hold it tight!


Sarah Forbes

Here are the posts in this series. I will add the links as I publish the posts.

Peace Day Challenge, Part 1: We are Called to Peace

Peace Day Challenge, Part 2: Even If the Healing Never Comes: Choosing Contentment

Peace Day Challenge, Part 3: Scriptures Verses About Living in Peace

Peace Day Challenge, Part 4: The Actual Peace Day Challenge

Peace Day Challenge, Part 5: Yes, I Still Lose My Cool Sometimes

Peace Day Challenge, Part 6: Peace Day Challenge Reflections

If you enjoyed this post, you may also enjoy these:

Choosing Joy: How an Attitude of Thankfulness Changed My Life

Lessons from Jonah

When You Find You Can’t Do It All

Independentism: The Negative Effects of Self-sufficiency on Women in the Church


Peace Day Challenge, Part 3 | Scriptures Verses About Living in Peace

These verses about peace go along with our Peace Day Challenge which I will explain in more detail in coming posts.

Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. Colossians 3:13

Make every effort to live in peace with everyone. Hebrews 12:14

…let him turn away from evil and do good; let him seek peace and pursue it. 1 Peter 3:11

Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness. James 3:18

And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7

…live in peace; and the God of love and peace will be with you. 2 Corinthians 13:11

God has called you to peace. 1 Corinthians 7:15

…those who promote peace have joy. Proverbs 12:20

If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Romans 12:18

Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification. Romans 14:19

Turn from evil and do good; seek peace and pursue it. Psalm 34:14

For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace. Romans 8:6

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times and in every way. The Lord be with all of you. 2 Thessalonians 3:16

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Romans 15:13

These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world. John 16:33

I hope these verses will encourage you to be peaceful in your heart and in your relationships.


Sarah Forbes

Here are the posts in this series. I will add the links as I publish the posts.

Peace Day Challenge, Part 1: We are Called to Peace

Peace Day Challenge, Part 2: Even If the Healing Never Comes: Choosing Contentment

Peace Day Challenge, Part 3: Scriptures Verses About Living in Peace

Peace Day Challenge, Part 4: The Actual Peace Day Challenge

Peace Day Challenge, Part 5: Yes, I Still Lose My Cool Sometimes

Peace Day Challenge, Part 6: Peace Day Challenge Reflections


Peace Day Challenge, Part 2 | Even If the Healing Never Comes

I have decided to be content where God has put me.

Just like Scripture commands.

That’s not to say that I don’t try to fix things that I’m able to or that I ignore actual problems.

But, I’m trying to be content –even if I can’t fix it.

This sometimes drives other Christians crazy!

Unfamiliar with the concept of contentment —because it’s not a concept that’s usually taught today in our you-can-do-anything culture— people will get angry at me that I’m not trying to fix my health (I think I am, but they do not).

I’ve been accused of letting Satan have power over me because I won’t rebuke him and tell him to take my illness away.

I mean, how dare I be content to face whatever trials God sends me?

How dare I say, “Your will be done” instead of fighting and resenting and trying to fix everything through my own power?

How dare I seek peace in my life and surrender whatever happens to The One Who Is Already In Control?

Choosing to not fight the status quo is –for many Christians– bordering on blasphemy.

They want some great show of God’s power when sometimes –often– God’s power is shown through someone who doesn’t get their problem fixed.

But praises God anyway.

Why don’t we encourage people to be content where God put them instead of trying to fix all our problems?

Our problems have Divine purpose!

I actually snapped at a friend over this issue this week (and had to later apologize).

I get testy sometimes when people suggest (or in her case I misunderstood what she was saying because I had a headache) that I’m not where God wants me to be.

I firmly believe that if I could be used in a greater way by God if I were healed then He would heal me.

If I’m still sick in spite having begged and pleaded and prayed for healing, then this is where I can best serve God.

I’m content here.

(It took me a long time to get to contentment.)

And my contentment has both puzzled and even angered other people.

They view it as lack of faith.

As if I have the right to demand that God do with my life as I see fit.

Contentment doesn’t mean I’ve given up.

But, neither does it mean that I think Satan is in control of my life and short changing me from the life I’m supposed to have in Christ.

I fully reject that idea, and my reason for rejecting it is directly connected to this idea of being content to let God be God and having my life completely surrendered to Him.

Part of the reason I have such a hard time with standard women’s Bible study groups and church activities is that there’s a lack of emphasis on being peaceful and content where God put you.

I am sorry, but I don’t need another, better meal plan or schedule to make me happy or more godly; I need more of God, more peace, more surrender.

This is key to my existence —it is how I make it through every day of pain; it is how you can make it through whatever God is doing in your life right now.

Surrender to God and say “If this is Your will for me, I am okay with that; if it is not, show me the way.”

Pray for wisdom so you will know if you need to do something, just like the book of James tells us.

This is from one of my comments on social media about dealing with chronic illness.

I just need to mention that I do not believe that Satan has any power over me or needs to be rebuked.

I do not believe that my illness is a result of Satan’s power over me in any way.

I have an illness because –just like Job and so many others in the Bible– God has allowed illness in my life because it brings Him glory.

Just like Jesus said about the blind men when He was asked if it was the parents or the man’s fault that the man was born blind, Jesus said it was so that the power of God could be shown through the man’s life.

Everything that happens is either because God ordains it or permits it.

Satan has no power over me without God’s permission nor any power over God’s will.

I am sick because it suits God’s purposes for me to be sick.

I am fine if He heals me and also fine if He doesn’t.

His will be done —always and no matter what.

I do not pray for or want healing unless me being healed would bring God more glory than me being sick.

If me being sick is the means by which God is glorified then I say like Job “though He slay me yet will I trust Him.

In other words, even if I die, I will not stop trusting God or singing His praises.

Because what right does the pottery have to ask the Potter why it was created or used a certain way?

I am His servant, indebted to Him for breathing life into my sinful soul.

I am indebted to Christ and He has the right to use my life in any way He sees fit.

Whatever He does is good –because He cannot be anything but good.

So if what He does seems to be contrary to what is good, that is because I do not understand what He is doing.

He is good, but I have an imperfect understanding of what is good.

I think we give Satan far too much credit and do not realize that God is working in the things we view as Satan’s work.

We need to be really careful about how we approach topics like this or we can easily veer into prosperity Gospel which is unbiblical and false teaching and teaches that if we are really serving God our lives will be perfect with happiness, health, and wealth.

‘It seemed intended by the blessed providence of God that I should be blind all my life, and I thank him for the dispensation. If perfect earthly sight were offered me tomorrow I would not accept it. I might not have sung hymns to the praise of God if I had been distracted by the beautiful and interesting things about me.’ –Franny Crosby

I’m learning to be content where God put me.

Godliness plus contentment is great gain.

Much of what we’re taught about striving to get better and about God wanting us to be in a good, happy place is far too much like prosperity gospel and not biblical at all.

Now that’s not to say that I am not trying to get better.

I have a whole team of doctors working on my behalf to find solutions to the plethora of symptoms and diagnoses I live with on a daily basis.

But, I am content where God put me.

Most days.

I go through bouts of freaking out and stressing out and feeling out of control and have to bring myself back to this place of peace.

Of choosing to not worry about things that are out of my control.

Of being okay if things are not perfect and not ideal.

Of daily surrender of the things that I cannot change.

Of being honest about what I can and cannot do and of trusting that God put me here with full knowledge of my strengths and my disabilities.

Focusing on peace means that I also must address sin issues because without addressing them I cannot be in peace –sin will cause unpeacefulness.

I only mention addressing sin because I am concerned that people will think I am giving up or taking the path of least resistance.

I am focusing on having a quiet strength that rises each morning and says:

Whatever God has for me to do today, that I will do. If I cannot do it, then He didn’t want me to do it today. If He wanted me to do it, He would have given me the strength and ability to do it with calmness and peace, because we know from Scripture that He has given us everything we need for life and godliness and that our testimony matters (especially our testimony to our children). If I don’t have strength, then today I didn’t need the strength that I thought I needed. I can rest in His unfailing goodness to give me what I need in His timing and not my own.

This –this total trust in Him– brings peace.

It is the peace I am choosing today and seeking to choose each and every day.


Sarah Forbes

Here are the posts in this series. I will add the links as I publish the posts.

Here are the posts in this series. I will add the links as I publish the posts.

Peace Day Challenge, Part 1: We are Called to Peace

Peace Day Challenge, Part 2: Even If the Healing Never Comes: Choosing Contentment

Peace Day Challenge, Part 3: Scriptures Verses About Living in Peace

Peace Day Challenge, Part 4: The Actual Peace Day Challenge

Peace Day Challenge, Part 5: Yes, I Still Lose My Cool Sometimes

Peace Day Challenge, Part 6: Peace Day Challenge Reflections

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