Christmas Articles

Accusations of Boycotting Christmas: Rethinking Our Traditions and Realigning Them with Scripture


Mary Mother of Jesus: Courage in the Face of Trial


Five reasons why “Happy Holidays” and “Xmas” Don’t Bother Me (And Shouldn’t Bother You)


8 Pieces of Advice About Dealing with Difficult Family


The Great Cookie Incident of 2013


Merry Christmas! 


Sarah Forbes

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The Great Cookie Incident of 2013

It was 2013, and I was sick.

Really sick.

Not the kind of sick where you get better, but the kind of sick where you wonder how long you have left on this earth, and you go to bed wondering if you’ll wake up in the morning.  

Sometimes, the pain and depression is so bad you just pray that God will take you Home.

Now, I’ve come a long way from that dark place in the last few years, but this story is about me, right there in the thick of it.

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8 Pieces of Advice About Dealing with Difficult Family

Christmas is quickly approaching and with it the inevitable interaction with difficult family members. Whether the difficulty is from alcohol, personality differences or even mental health disorders, the facts are that the holidays mean family interaction.  

I doubt there’s a family without drama anywhere in the world. If there was, I would say “sign me up,” but I would ruin their peace with my own drama.

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Five reasons why “Happy Holidays” and “Xmas” Don’t Bother Me (And Shouldn’t Bother You)

  1. The term “xmas” was started by religious people and is not an attack on Christians

    .  The X in Xmas is not, in fact, an English X. It is a Greek X, and X has long been used as a representation of Christ’s name dating all the way back to the second century. 

    from Wikipedia

    X has been used by religious people in the word Christmas since before the 1500s.  Only recently did someone who was not well-educated in church history decide that it was an attack on Christianity and Christmas.  If you think about it, it makes sense that they’d use the X.  In a world where everything had to be handwritten, it was not uncommon for people to come up with shorthand versions of words.  My grandmother was a secretary in the 1970s, and she had a whole book of shorthand for note taking. Since it was known that X was the shorthand for Christ,  Xmas was known to mean Christmas.See this link for a detailed description of how and when X was used as Christ’s name. It is one and the same. Feel free to use them interchangeably as they mean the exactly same thing.  But, if you use it interchangeably,  expect someone religious to be upset, and expect to have to explain yourself. For the sake of peace, I generally avoid using it. But I am not offended if others use it because I understand the facts around its use.

  2. Most people who use “xmas” and “happy holidays” are trying to be practical –not offensive.

     Their intent is usually to be kind to everyone regardless of what holidays they celebrate or to make Christmas tree for sale sign that takes up less space. But, if we Christians respond in an offended way then we look petty, self-indulgent, and ignorant of facts. It does not bring people closer to Jesus if we behave poorly. They look at us and want nothing to do with us because we can’t even behave politely. This movement of “Keep Christ in Christmas” is ruining our Christian testimony and is not representative of how Christ behaved. There might be some people who are being intentionally offensive. I will address that in number five (see below).  

  3. I don’t have right to demand that other people do things my way.

     Unless those people are under my authority (like my children), I  don’t have the right to demand that they do things my way.  Christianity is far more about my responsibilities than my rights. We’re commanded to follow Jesus who gave up all His rights as King of the Universe and came to earth to die a horrible death. It’s ironic that we celebrate Him giving up His rights by demanding our own rights.  

  4. Christians don’t have a monopoly on winter holidays.

    Christians don’t have the right to make everyone else celebrate their holiday. Since Christmas isn’t even mentioned in scripture this is not a sin issue or really even a defending-the-faith issue. Christmas is a conglomerate many cultures’ and many religions’ traditions. It simply is. If you study history, you can easily see that. Even the practices that Christians participate in today have a lot of roots in unChristian beliefs. I’m not saying abandoned your traditions. I’m saying know they are traditions and not Bible commands. I’m saying know where your traditions came from and be respectful of other people’s versions of winter festivals. No one has been won to Christ while being scolded for leaving Jesus out out of a celebration. We’re not going to win people to Christ if we can’t respect them and treat them with decency. 

  5. If the extent of our persecution is that someone tries to take a holiday away,  we have it incredibly easy.

    We are incredibly spoiled and deceived if we think this issue is serious persecution when other Christians around the world are being beheaded. We are going to be persecuted if we stand for Christ (but not that much in the US because it’s a religiously safe place). Fallen man will try to remove all traces of God from our world. It must be this way. Things will get worse the closer we get to Jesus’ return. But know this: the more we’re persecuted, the more people will come to Christ. So welcome the persecution for the sake of the gospel! We should respond the way Jesus did: He didn’t say a word. He didn’t revile. He didn’t fight back. He trusted that God know what He was doing and committed Himself to God’s care.  

So, keep Christmas however you want to. But, if you’re going to use this time of year to honor Jesus by celebrating His birth, make sure sure you’re not losing your testimony along the way.  

Because that would not honoring to Him.

And, dishonoring Him while claiming to celebrate Him is an immensely unfortunate irony and a reality for many Christians.


Sarah Forbes

Christmas, faith, illness

Mary Mother of Jesus: Courage in the Face of Trial

Mary the mother of Jesus gets ignored most of the time in my experience.

I think she is passed over by many as a protestant reaction to the Catholic Church’s treatment of Mary. In an effort to separate themselves from the Mary-worship that happens in other parts of Christendom, protestant churches tend to gloss over the wonderful testimony of faith and sacrifice that Mary made for the Lord.

Mary’s story, to me, is humbling, inspiring, and thought-provoking.

Most Bible scholars think that Mary was between 14 and 16 years old when Jesus was born. That means she was between 13 and 15 years of age when the Angel Gabriel visited her, calling her favored of God.

My oldest son is almost 15 and his brother just turned 12. I’m thinking about the young ladies I know that are their age and wondering if they would respond with the same level of humble submission as Mary did.

I know at age 13, I was still struggling to submit to my parents, let alone to the potential consequences of an unwed pregnancy in ancient Israel.

We tend to think, it’s just an unwed pregnancy, big deal.


But it was a big deal.

A huge deal.

According to Hebrew marriage customs, Mary and Joseph were already married even though they had not consummated their relationship. That meant that Mary risk being stoned for adultery when she was found to be pregnant. This was part of the Mosaic Law.

Mary knew this. She knew that she either faced death by stoning, or –if Joseph didn’t publicly reject her– she faced the scorn and ridicule of those around her for what they would perceive as her sin.

Mary had done nothing wrong.

She was right where God wanted her, walking in obedience to His word.

God brought into her life the most wonderful Gift in all of history.

But that gift would also be a trial because those around her would not understand.

They would assume sin.

They might accuse.

They might even judge and shun.

From her song in Luke we know that Mary had a very firm grasp on scripture, on God’s power and His faithfulness.

Mary may have been confused, because although the Hebrew people anxiously awaited their Messiah, they did not expect Him to enter the world in this humble manner.

They were expecting a triumphant king who would free them from the Roman domination, not a suffering servant who would die for their sins.

Both are prophesied in the Old Testament, but prophecy is hard to understand when you’re looking forward and much clearer when you’re looking back.

Mary must have suspected that no one would understand.

That  for her whole life she would bear a stigma of being sinful when the truth was that God had chosen her for something holy and wonderful.

She did ask how it would happen.

I would have been curious, too.

Staring the possibility of spousal rejection, social alienation, and possibly even death in the face, she said one simple phrase that will stay with me until I take my last breath.  

“Be it done as you have said: I am the handmaid of the Lord.”

What inner strength this young woman must have had!

What character!

She –knowing full well it might mean death– surrendered herself fully into God’s hands.

One could argue that the angel provided comfort or that she somehow knew God would take care of her.

One could even argue that it was an honor to bear the Christ Child, and she shouldn’t even have thought of herself.

Maybe she didn’t.

Maybe she only thought about how wonderful it was that God had chosen her.

But still these words echo back in my mind bouncing around like a pinball trying to find a resting place.

“Be it done as you have said: I am the handmaid of the Lord.”

Basically, she said, I surrender to the plan you have for me, because I’m your servant.

How many times have I fought God’s plan for me?

When something comes my way, and it’s not of my doing: it’s not even anything I can control…

How many times have I squawked and clawed and bit to try to get my own way before ever even considering that He might know best?

How many times has He dragged me kicking and screaming like a pouty child to what He has planned for me?

How many times have I resented the path He chose for me because it was hard?

 Or others wouldn’t understand?

 Or it’s not what someone said was supposed to happen when you trusted God?

Or that’s not how other Bible believing people think it should be?

Or I might be judged for sin when I was actually righteous?

When was the last time I was faced with a serious hardship and I simply said, “Whatever you have for me, Lord, I’m just your servant”?

When was the last time surrender was my first choice instead of my last when I finally I realized I couldn’t argue my way out?

When’s the last time I just let God be God and said, “Not mine, but Your will be done”?

This is why this story should not be skipped over.

 To me, it’s a story of wonderful faith and courage that just happens to be part of the Christmas story.

It’s a story of a woman who faced injustice and trial with dignity.

It’s really breathtaking to be able to glance into the heart of the young women who God chose –from all of time and history– to be the mother of His child.

She’s worth a second look and more than a bit part in the Christmas play.

She’s an example to all women –and all people– who would follow hard after God.  

She’s astounding.

We know very little about her life, and yet in one sentence she can bring me to tears.

May I have the faith of Mary!

May I embrace the life God has chosen for me with a willing and humble spirit –regardless of what problems that path may bring.

May my lips ever whisper: “Be it done as You will: I’m the handmaid of the Lord.”


Sarah Forbes

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Accusations of Boycotting Christmas: Rethinking Our Traditions and Realigning Them with Scripture

All year long, I am training my children to not be greedy, to appreciate non-material things, to store their treasures in heaven not on earth, and to think if others first.

Come fall, our relatives begin asking them for birthday and christmas wish lists. My children have October and January birthdays.

It is frankly contrary to what I am trying to teach them the rest of the year. For a few months every fall and winter, they begin to be greedy and unhappy with what they have.

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